Monday, August 28, 2006

Being a Friend

Being a Friend
Proverbs 17:17; 18:24; 27:6-9

In the next few weeks we will have two events that are important for our church. First, on September 10th we will be having our Friend Day and annual picnic. This is a great time to invite our family and friends, especially those who don’t know Jesus or have a church home. Second, on the next Sunday the 17th we will begin our home groups again. There will be sign up sheets and I want to encourage you to sign up or at least visit a few of the groups. This is a vital part of our church and important to your individual growth as a Christian.

I. Loneliness
The reason our groups are important is evident in the increasing loneliness that is plaguing our society. Recently studies have shown a decline in close friends for both men and women in the last ten years. One fourth of our nation’s households consist of just one person. Ten years ago 10% said they had no close friend or confidante. Today 25% said they had no close confidante. Another 19% said they had only one close friend they could confide in. These are amazing statistics and point to an underlying dysfunction in our society.

There are many reasons given for this but I want to focus on a couple that I think are overlooked. Sometimes people make choices that isolate themselves. A friend of mine in California works with people struggling with drug problems. One woman came to him for help and he talked with her for a short period of time. Several weeks later the police called him. She had been arrested and needed someone to take her child and he was the only person she could think of. Her drug habit had cut her off from family and friends to the point where Jon, almost a complete stranger who had shown her kindness, was the only person she could think to turn to. Sin does that to people. Addictive behavior isolates people. Other types of sin isolate people also. Pride can do it to the point where people will not ask for help or reach out to others. Fear is another isolating factor.

However, one factor that I don’t see mentioned is our desire for privacy. It has become so mandated by government we hesitate to put details of why a person is on the prayer list in the bulletin. In a sense this is a western idol related to the idol of individualism. It is what causes a person to keep others at a distance and keeps a person alone and often lonely. It is a barrier to committing to a community because commitment requires us to lower some of our barriers and our masks and allow others to know us.

II. A Church of Friends
That is the setting for our church today. We have people who come to our church looking for something and they are not sure what it is. I believe they are looking for a connection to other people and even more a connection to God.

I know that we as a church view ourselves as ‘friendly’ and we are. We work hard at greeting guests who walk through our doors and try to make them feel welcome. Yet friendliness is not enough. People can get a friendly greeting at Walmart. We are not inviting people into our fellowship to sell a product but to meet our savior, Jesus Christ. We don’t just want to be friendly but to offer friendship. How can we do that?

The first step on our part is to be open to new relationships and new people. It is wonderful that we have such great relationships with people in our congregation. There is a lot of joy in seeing a friend we have not seen in a few days. But it is very easy to see a friend and ignore the person who is not. We may feel like we have enough friends and therefore do not need to reach out to someone new. Sometimes we may feel like it isn’t worth the effort to get to know a new person. All of these attitudes keep us closed to new people in our midst. I want to encourage you to meet new people who come through our doors. This doesn’t mean they will become a close friend but then again they might. This does not mean we won’t be disappointed or even hurt by others we offer friendship to. But the Christian life is not about avoiding pain but in risking our selves for others.

The book of Proverbs gives us some wisdom when it comes to being a friend. One verse is, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” (Proverbs 17:17) Friendship can be formed in all kinds of circumstances but true friendship will last through difficult and trying times. The key here is that friendship shares both good times and bad. I have had people who came into my life when they had problems and wanted me to help but then disappeared after the crisis was over. I have also had people who disappeared when I had a need. We all desire relationships that can share everything. This is why our home groups are so important. You cannot form a friendship just seeing people here on Sunday morning. Our home groups are where we pray together, talk about our joys and sorrows, and join hands to help others. If we want others to connect to our church and become a part of us then we need to invite them to our home group. If we want to connect and grow then becoming a part of a home group is necessary.

Another point from Proverbs is,
Wounds from a friend can be trusted,
but an enemy multiplies kisses.

Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart,
and the pleasantness of one's friend springs from his earnest counsel.
(Proverbs 27:6, 9)

Sometimes people think friendship is just ignoring things that are wrong in a person’s life. The writer of Proverbs doesn’t see it that way. Instead true friendship makes a person better. We see that in a good marriage. Diane has made me a better person because she has helped me recognize and deal with weaknesses in my life. There are things she overlooks because she is my friend and she does love me but her gentle rebukes and insights have helped me for over 35 years. I hope that I have done the same thing for her. The friendship we offer people is acceptance and love but also a desire to see them become what God desires them to be.

This is not an easy thing to do. Not everyone wants that kind of friendship. People rejected Jesus’ friendship and they will reject ours also. But there are many people who are looking not just for a connection to other people but a connection to God. We need to remember we are not a social club or a service club or a self-help club. We are people of God whose desire and task is to introduce people to our Lord Jesus Christ and to know God. That task is well defined by Jesus in his commission to Saul,
“’I'm sending you off to open the eyes of the outsiders so they can see the difference between dark and light, and choose light, see the difference between Satan and God, and choose God. I'm sending you off to present my offer of sins forgiven, and a place in the family, inviting them into the company of those who begin real living by believing in me.’”
THE MESSAGE)

This week look around you. Who can you invite to Friend Day? Take several invitations on the way out this morning, pray over those invitations and give them out. Let’s pray for our neighbors and friends so that we can introduce them to the greatest friend we have, Jesus.

Livonia Church of Christ: August 27, 2006

Thursday, August 24, 2006

A Break from Preaching

The previous two Sundays we have had guest speakers at Livonia. On August 13th Drew Fralick preached and gave a report about a mission survey trip he took to Peru and Bolivia. On August 20th I prevailed on Matthew to preach. He is pictured here with his grandparents Dean and Ruth Clutter of Coldwater, Michigan. Dean is approaching 60 years as a gospel preacher. I believe this is the second time Matt has preached at Livonia and he did an excellent job both times. While he is on a different career path than full time ministry I know that he will be blessing the Lord's church through his talents no matter what vocation he chooses. He is returning to Abilene Christian University August 25th for his second year as a political science major. We are proud of the man he is becoming.

Wednesday, August 16, 2006

The Journey: Blessing

The Journey
Blessing
Psalm 134

Introduction: I like to travel and visit new places. You may have had an experience like mine where you read about a place, it looks so attractive and interesting so you plan and save to go. But when you get there you’ve been fooled. The glowing description doesn’t measure up. You’re disappointed and a little angry at falling for their tricks. Sometimes people wonder about that with our spiritual journey. Is it worth the hardship of the journey? What awaits us? Will we be disappointed?

I. The Invitation
The journey through the psalms of ascent has reached its destination. It began with repentance, a turning from something so we could travel and reach a place where God can be worshipped. Along the way there has been trial, suffering, joy, fellowship, all the good and bad that life can throw at us. Now we are invited to “bless the Lord”.

The word “bless” is central to this short closing psalm. We use the word in various ways from what we say when someone sneezes to a way to say good-bye. I often close my letters with “God bless.” But for people on the journey toward God the psalmist invites them, invites us to bless the Lord. The question is how do you bless God?

Blessing, at least in biblical terms, is an act of giving. In scripture we see parents giving a blessing to their children by laying their hands on them and then saying words that in one sense predict or declare their future. Blessing is given in many ways by action but also by our words. Paul is clear that what we say has tremendous impact on those around us, Eph. 4:29. As parents we either bless our children or curse them. Too many parents do not realize the power of their words on their children. Their words become in some ways self-fulfilling prophecies. Tell a child that they are bad long enough and they will become what you tell them.

But the invitation in the psalm is to bless the Lord. How do you do that? After all God is supposed to bless us. God is the one with all the power. How can a weak creature like me bless God? The word in the NIV translation is “praise” but that is not very good way to translate this word. The word is used of what God does for us. But God does not just bless us with things, however good they may be. God ultimately wants to share himself with us, share his grace and generosity. As one person observed blessing is a sharing of what is in the soul.

The picture of parent and child is one we may be able to best relate. How does a parent bless a child? Providing food, clothing and shelter is part of it but a child wants and needs more. The child needs the parent to come down to their level, to stoop down and be interested in toy cars and dolls, to forget about jobs, sports, and house keeping and to enter their world and share ourselves with them. God does that, has done that in Jesus and even now continues to enter our world in order to be with us.

Then we are invited to bless God. How do children bless their parents? They give back to us what we have shared with them. If we have shared love and patience then, most of the time, that is what we will receive. Children bless their parents in the lives they live, or at times they do not bless us, Prov. 15:20; 19:26.

We have made the journey toward God and now we are called to bless the Lord. What is in our soul? What have we learned from his discipline? How has God blessed us? The answer is in how we live, the choices we make, the love we share with others. It comes in how we speak about God to others.

II. The Command
The psalmist and other pilgrims had traveled days or even months to reach Jerusalem to worship. For many the experience must have been overwhelming with tens of thousands of pilgrims and the magnificent temple. They must have had countless stories to share about the journey and its hardships and blessings. But this was not the reason they had made the journey. They may have been tired and not wanted to bless the Lord but that is why they had come.

There is probably no more difficult time to praise God than the middle of the night. There were priests on duty around the clock but those with the midnight shift must have found it difficult. The command is to lift your hands and bless the Lord, a physical act that helped the worshipper to worship. We can find all kinds of reasons not to bless the Lord. We are tired. We had a fight with our spouse or the kids or the parents. We want to talk to our friends because the journey is hard. But worship does not depend on our emotions. They are a part of worship to be sure but if we only worshipped when we felt like it then we would rarely do so. Some think it is hypocritical to come to worship when we don’t feel like it but that is not hypocrisy. God does not demand that we come with our smiley face in place; he only asks that we come with what we have. If blessing another is a sharing what is in our soul then we bless the Lord when we share our sorrows as wells as our joys, our defeats as well as our victories. When we share with God it is not that the sorrow or joy is taken away but that God shares in it with us. God wants us to share what is in our souls and he will share what is in his soul.

III. God’s Blessing
The psalm begins calling us to bless the Lord and ends with, “May the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth, bless you from Zion.” The Lord desires to bless people. As Maker of heaven and earth we often place blessing in the categories of physical and spiritual blessings. While we recognize the value of the spiritual it is usually the physical that we are most concerned about. God is concerned also about the physical, after all he created it and he created us with the physical needs that we have. God created the spirit in us also and he answers those needs primarily through Jesus. God’s heart is filled with love that is expressed in grace and generosity.

But God’s blessing is more than these things that we are often focused on. God wants to share himself with us. This is beyond our comprehension. Why would the maker of heaven and earth desire to share himself with me when I am so small and so insignificant? The fact is God creates us so he can share himself with us and we with him. Jesus said it this way, “Now this is eternal life: that they may know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent.” (John 17:3) When God shares his soul with us then we are changed, transformed by that sharing. What is in God’s soul? We often think of love, grace, and mercy as being the soul of God. But there is also sorrow in God’s soul. If we shared in God’s sorrow then maybe our vision would be more like God’s.

The Journey of the Psalms of Ascent is a journey to God. It is a journey that God invites all to join. You won’t be disappointed when you arrive because it will be beyond all that you can express or imagine. God invites you to begin; we invite you to join us in the way.

Livonia Church of Christ: August 6, 2006

Monday, August 07, 2006

No More Teenagers!

Matt with Laura and Julie at his high school graduation in 2005.


August 1st was a momentous day for Diane and me, Matthew celebrated his 20th birthday and this meant that our time as parents to teens, which began in 1990, was over. I must admit that we had great fun with our teens and it was much more a blessing than it was a problem. Our kids continue to make us proud. We have had a great summer with Matt at home and he will be leaving August 25th to start his second year at Abilene Christian University. He is a political science major and is doing great with his studies. Our prayer is that God will continue to lead him in the way he should go.

The Journey: Obedience

The Journey:
Obedience
Psalm 132

Introduction: Have you ever prayed intensely to God in the midst of a crisis? Did you promise God something in return for his help? Did you keep the promise? Such times are filled with fervor for God but more frequently our obedience and our fervor are more like background music to our daily activities. This psalm reminds us of both kinds of obedience because both are part of the journey.

I. The Ark
The psalm is built around the coming of the Ark of the Covenant to Jerusalem. The Ark was built under Moses’ direction during the time at Sinai. It was a symbol of God’s presence in Israel and was referred to as the footstool of God’s throne. The priests carried it during the wilderness wandering and during the time of the conquest of Canaan. After years of wandering the tabernacle was set up in Shilo.

The story of the ark flows throughout the history of Israel. Israel tried to use it as a magic charm to assure victory and found out that God could not be manipulated when the ark was captured. Of course the Philistines who captured the ark found out that God didn’t like their idols and quickly sent it back. The psalm refers to the time when David brought the ark to Jerusalem and place where the temple would be built.

David had finally been made king and his kingdom was stable. The first time David attempted to bring the Ark to Jerusalem was a disaster. (2 Sam. 6:1-11) David had not consulted the law and as a result God struck down a man named Uzzah for touching the Ark. This scared David and the Ark was left in the care of a family along the way. Several months later, after consulting the Law and probably the Levites David had the Ark brought into Jerusalem with great rejoicing. (2 Sam. 6:12-19) Scripture recorded that David danced before the Lord with all his might as he had sacrifices made every few feet.

In a sense this was the pinnacle of David’s spiritual life. David had endured years of abuse and hardship waiting on God to fulfill his promise to him and God did do as he promised. Now David as king was going to have the Ark, the symbol of God’s presence with his people close at hand. David could go up to the tabernacle and pray and worship at any hour. His obedience brought him close to God and it was filled with excitement and fervor. His fervor touched an entire nation as people came to Jerusalem to celebrate with David. His obedience set an example that must have caused people to take seriously their covenant with God and to live in faithfulness. And David desired to do more, to build a house for the Ark that was glorious and worth of God. God refused David that honor but even though we refer to the temple that was built as the Temple of Solomon, David’s son, David made extensive preparations in planning and materials so that the young Solomon simply had to give the word for the work to begin.
So the temple was built and Israel began the trips to Jerusalem to worship and sacrifice. This psalm was sung as part of the journey to the temple. People could imagine what it must have been like that day as the Ark made the journey, what the celebration must have been like and now they were making the journey, they were rejoicing as they entered Jerusalem.

It strikes me that sometimes our remembrance, our worship, is more solemn that it is celebratory. Certainly, solemnity is one aspect of our worship as we come to the table but there is so much more that we seem to overlook. For the early church the Lord’s supper was more about Sunday than Friday, the glory of the resurrection than the darkness of the crucifixion. Celebration is more about community. Celebration is done with others, it is shared, and you can’t keep it in or to yourself. It is like welcoming the Ark into Jerusalem with feasting, songs, and dance. This psalm is about the joy that comes from faithful obedience.

II. The Covenant
Because of David’s tremendous heart God made a covenant with him that he would have a descendent on the throne forever. Many of us know how the story continued with David. From the pinnacle of joy that comes from obedience came the pit of death and despair from disobedience. It wasn’t just David who fell, invariably all who followed him fell. Eventual the kingdom was sent into exile. But verse 10 is an appeal to God to remember his covenant even in the face of Israel’s unfaithfulness.

God remembers. We often think of this in negative terms, “How could God forgive, not remember my sin?” But the positive side of this is God remembers. He remembers your faith, your baptism, your stumbling progress, the times you tried to help someone or share your faith with a friend. God remembers the covenant he made with you whether it was fifty years ago or yesterday. We have a history with God and he remembers and so should we. When a couple marries they have started a history together and that is part of their love. As the years pass good and bad happens, they share joy and sorrow, victory and loss. Every anniversary is a remembrance of the covenant and the history. Couples that grow apart often begin building a history separate from each other. They forget their history and their covenant and why they had such love for each other in the beginning.

We need to remember our history with God and what that means. We journey toward God each day that we live. Others have gone before us on the journey, David, Peter, Paul, maybe parents or a friend, even Jesus. This psalm was one to help the pilgrim remember and to be filled with joy.

“The Lord has chosen Zion.” The Lord has also chosen you to be his dwelling place. You didn’t just choose to follow God, he chose you. You are the place where God sits enthroned. The words of Jesus are astounding in John 14:23, “If anyone loves me, he will obey my teaching. My Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him.” Paul describes us as God’s temple where God’s spirit dwells, 1 Cor. 3:16.

The last part of the psalm is, “I will bless.” God will give physical blessing, clothe his people with salvation, and give strength and victory. That is what God did for David because of his obedience. Discipline came because of David’s disobedience. Discipline came when Israel failed to keep the covenant, when they failed to remember God. But discipline is not what God desires to give us, he wants to bless but his blessing is tied in many ways to our faithfulness. This is one lesson of David’s life. David did not have perfect obedience, in fact he was a long way from that, but David was faithful. His heart was turned toward God so that when his sin was revealed he turned back toward the God he loved so much. God did bless David and he blesses all who journey toward him.

Livonia Church of Christ: July 30, 2006